Slow Resolutions and the Elusive Round-To-It

At the end of 2024, Hannah and I started something called a Round Tuit (Round To It) List, ready for 2025, with the idea that by having someone else aware that these items were things we needed to do, we'd feel both supported and accountable for these things. It seems to be working so far!

Hannah's created a template for this list which you can download here, to make your own Round To It List:

Flour Power's Round To It List Template

My Nanna's Round-Tuit Plate

Now, the concept of a “Round Tuit” is a running inside joke from my family. It was something my Nanna used to say: “They were a very rare breed, round tuits, you can get square ones easily at the shops but you can’t get round ones.” My Nanna used to have this decorative plate hanging up in her kitchen, which proudly proclaimed itself as having found sufficient quantities of "Round Tuits" so that "everything that needs to be accomplished can be done."

That phrase has stuck around so long in my family's dialect that it's bled through into other conversations and become a whole thing, like if a task is something you need to complete at some point in the future, it's now known as a Round-Tuit Job.

I adopted the plate after my Nanna passed away, and it keeps me company in my kitchen - it's not got a permanent place on the wall yet, but as you can guess that's a round-tuit job in itself.

Back to the List. Hannah and I were talking last year just before Christmas about making a list of all the things that we’ve needed to Get Around To for some time. As we sat in Hannah's car, at like 1 am outside my flat, Hannah said to me very lovingly: “You keep talking about all these things you need to get round to, and then, you don’t do them. So how about we just write a list of them, and we're both going to sign this, and hold each other accountable."

And so this list includes things that we’ve both been putting off, or things that we’re a bit nervous about, and it has has been a very good place to kickstart us having conversations about what we’re trying to achieve this year. It's only February, but so far we're both doing pretty great!

Adulthood is full of big decisions and big journeys - we've both learned in our short stint of Adulthood that doing something big as an adult for the first time is a very scary thing, and it's much nicer doing something when you know that if you get scared you’ve got someone there, even if neither of you know what you're doing. So that’s the other part of the Round To It list is – these are also things that Hannah and I have gone “Ok, these are scary to do on our own, that we don’t really know how to ask questions with.” and knowing that we've discussed them with each other they feel a lot less daunting now, and a lot more acheivable.

We discovered a lot of things while planning and recording this episode, and these were our main takeaways:

1. Slower self-improvement is more likely to be successful at habit forming than diving in headfirst with over-ambitious goals.

2. Finding someone who can hold you accountable if you can, is invaluable.

3. Be kind to yourself! Change is hard, and it takes time. Being cruel to yourself won’t make anything easier, better, or more likely to happen. In fact, a positive attitude is more likely to make you succeed than a negative one.

If you want to hear more about our Slow Resolutions for 2025, check out the episode Time To Chill over on our YouTube, or here on the website, where you can also download it along with all of our other episodes.